I had a lovely mother in law and still adore my sisters and brothers in law, but they all live far away. When I was remarrying, I told me husband a major concern for me was his closeness with his family. They are all still very involved in each others life, and talk almost daily on the phone. They visit all the time. My in-laws have a cabin next to our home they have as a second home. I wasn’t sure if I was ready for such involvement. Fortunately, I came to realize they do respect boundaries, but you’re definitely correct that it’s a whole package, and you better like it or you’re up the creek.
We went to the University of Texas and the big OU vs. UT game is held in Dallas every year. The boy asked me to go to the game with him and we stopped enroute to his hometown so the boy could introduce me to his grandparents. Here I am, Little Miss Ft. Lauderdale. Long blonde hair, mini skirt, suntan. Not the typical Texas girl in her Mexican wedding dress with the perfect makeup and hairspray in my hair. The grandparents were not impressed. They asked my last name. I told them. They asked me what type of name was it? I told them it was German. They then asked me what my religion was. I told them I was Catholic. There was nothing but silence. One of the grandparents then looked at me and said, “Well, we’ve met some Negroes and some Jews and I guess now we’ve met a Catholic too.”
Um.. the boy and I broke up when we got back to school from the game.